Tantra-informed Counceling
for Men and Couples
As part of my exploration of spiritual paths of practice (see “About Me”), I have engaged deeply with Hindu Tantra, particularly with the Kaula traditions of non-dual Śaiva-Śākta Tantra and with Śrīvidyā, a tantric tradition of Goddess worship that was transmitted to me primarily through the Mahāvidyās – ten female deities embodying distinct cosmic forces. From 2020 to 2024, I was a student of a traditional tantric teacher and was introduced to advanced forms of practice and energy guidance that continue to shape my work. The tantric-yogic path remains at the center of my own practice.
Kashmiri Śaiva-Śākta Tantra, which primarily informs my work, is a comprehensive spiritual philosophy and practice that encompasses all aspects of life. It has little in common with what is often understood in the West as “Tantra” (or “Neo-Tantra”), particularly in its common reduction to sexuality. In light of these simplifications, as well as problematic dynamics and power asymmetries within parts of the Western Tantra scene, I approach the sharing of this knowledge with particular care. At the same time, I consider a differentiated and responsible transmission of tantric praxis-knowledge to be both meaningful and necessary in the current context.
I therefore offer guidance for men and couples who wish to engage with this field. Given the sensitivity of the topic, our work takes place exclusively in a conversational format. Practical exercises are not part of the sessions themselves but are offered as individually tailored practice impulses for independent exploration at home.
Breath ≡ Prāṇa ≡ Consciousness
For Men
A central aspect of male tantric practice is in my view the conscious engagement with one’s own sexual energy as a manifestation of Śakti. I support men with a particular focus on ejaculatory control and the associated physical and psychological processes. This work is not about performance enhancement, but about the conscious cultivation of an energy that is often experienced as chaotic and difficult to regulate. When practiced correctly, ejaculatory control can lead to a fundamental clarification and reorganisation of male sexuality: impulses lose their compulsive quality, the experience shifts from rapid discharge toward conscious cultivation, and a growing capacity emerges to experience sexuality in a more sustained, aware, and connected way.
For this purpose, I offer a four-week individual mentoring program based on four interconnected pillars: Retention, Sublimation, Cultivation, and Integration. Retention involves gradually learning ejaculatory control and developing a conscious relationship with retained sexual energy. Sublimation encompasses tantric-yogic techniques for moving and transforming this energy within the body, making it available for vitality, creativity, presence, and other areas of life. Cultivation aims to gradually expand one’s “energetic vessel” – the capacity to consciously hold and direct greater intensities of sexual energy. This also includes working with sankalpas and an introduction to the ritual use of sexuality that goes beyond pleasure and release. Integration, finally, leads into a form of inner alchemy: the conscious exploration of anima and animus, the horizontal polarity of the inner feminine and masculine, and their relationship to the vertical polarity of Śiva and Śakti as consciousness and energy.
The program is an independently developed approach and is not an adaptation of the methods popularized in the West by Mantak Chia. It combines practices from different traditions – with a particular emphasis on tantric-yogic techniques – that I have personally practiced and explored over many years and brought together into a coherent path of practice. The four-week mentoring program includes comprehensive written practice materials, accompanying videos and audio recordings, two individual 1:1 sessions, and continuous support via a messenger service. Working with sexual energy is highly individual and can change dynamically over the course of the practice. The mentoring therefore does not follow a rigid formula. Over the four weeks, the practice is developed step by step and continuously adapted to individual experiences and developmental processes.
For couples
The deeper home of many tantric practices lies, for me, within the context of a committed relationship. I support couples in approaching their relationship as a space of conscious encounter and in gradually opening to expanded forms of presence and mutual resonance, particularly to the polarity of worship and self-surrender as described in traditional tantric contexts. On this basis, and where appropriate, the erotic dimension of the relationship can also be included in the form of specific, guided practices.
My approach
My work in this area is shaped by a combination of personal practice, academic reflection, and a clear awareness of the sensitivity of this field. I share selected aspects of tantric experiential knowledge in a careful, contemporary, and non-dogmatic way. If you are interested in this area, feel free to get in touch. We can also discuss your concerns in an initial 15-minute consultation, free of charge.